The members of Imam Khomeini's family say that he had been very busy while leading the struggle for Islamic Revolution.
In addition to that, the leader of contemporary Muslim world used to also teach seminary students, formed study circles and wrote theological works. Despite all engagements, Imam never fell short of fulfilling his responsibilities towards family. He had allocated certain times to train and guide his children and siblings.
It has been recalled through a series of memories that the late founder of the Islamic Revolution highly observed rights of his family’s members.
His wife narrates that she had only one wish her whole life that the Imam never fulfilled: she had wished for him to ask her for a glass of water at least once, but he never did!
Many visitors to his house would be amazed to find the Imam washing the dishes, sweeping the floor, and participating in other household chores
Imam used to highly observe rights of his wife and children. Imam’s wife said in one of his memoirs as following:
Imam always offered me the better place in the room. He would not start eating until I came to the dinner table. He would also tell the children: ‘Wait until Khanom comes.’ He maintained respect for me and was not even willing that I should work in the house. He would always tell me: ‘Don’t sweep.’ If I wanted to wash the children’s clothes at the pond, he would come and say: “Get up, you shouldn’t be washing."
On the whole, I have to say that Imam did not consider sweeping, washing dishes and even washing my children’s clothes as part of my responsibilities. If out of necessity I sometimes did these, he would get upset considering them as a type of unjust dealing towards me.
Even when I entered the room, he would never say: ‘Close the door behind you,’ but waited till I sat down and then would himself get up and shut the door.
According to Siddiqa Mustafavi (Imam’s daughter), Imam was very attached to his wife and had special respect for her, so much so that he placed his wife on one side, and his children on the other.
I remember that once Imam’s wife had gone on a journey, and Imam was missing her very much. When he would frown, we would jokingly say to him: ‘When Khanom is here, Imam laughs, and when she is not here, Imam is upset and frowns.’
In short, however much we teased Imam, he would not stop frowning. Finally I said: ‘Blessed is Khanom that you like her so much.’ He said: ‘Blessed am I that I have such a wife. No one else has sacrificed as much in life as she has. If you too would be like Khanom, your husband would also like you this much.’
Fatema Tabatabai (Imam’s daughter-in-law) says in one of her memoirs as following:
Imam acted exactly according to all the instructions that he gave from the start, and in actuality, was an embodiment of those very instructions. He himself was the book ‘Forty Hadith’ that he had written in his youth. Suppose he spoke about riya(performing any action for the purpose of other than the pleasure of Allah) and reproached it, he himself would stay away from it with intensity.
I remember one day my son entered the house wearing trousers which I had patched up at one knee. Imam asked: “Why is Hassan dishevelled like this?” I jokingly replied: “It’s the life of poor people, Agha.”
Immediately, his face became drawn, and he said: “You don’t want to do riya.” I said: “No, why riya?” He said: “Be careful. Not paying attention to outward physical appearances has value. However, if you want to show (people) that I am such and such, it is riya.”
Imam said this sentence to me with the same intensity with which he had, at the age of 30 years, written in his book!